I’ve never been the best at understanding break-ups, or the etiquette behind them. My best examples are the friends around me, or television programs. As far as my friends are concerned, by best friend especially, they’ve more or less been able to stay friends with their most important exes. They hang out, they joke, and only occasionally sleep together– but they’re friends none-the-less.
And as for television examples you have Carrie and Mr. Big (Sex and the City), who even though struggled at first, okay had an affair, ended up being friends…. okay, and they ended up together but whatever. You have Logan and Veronica (Veronica Mars), who more or less looked like they would stay friends in the finale, although we didn’t fully get to see where that would go thanks to an untimely cancellation. Xander and Cordelia (Buffy the Vampire Slayer) managed to remain friendly even after their awful breakup, although it did take a while. And she did ultimately leave Sunnydale forever, never to return.
Okay, maybe television is a bad example. But you see what I mean. I don’t really have any person experience with being friends with my ex. I only have one real ex, who I dated when I was 16. I have the people around me, who seemingly have no problems being around their exes, and television shows that are not exactly realistic. So when I’m trying to figure out the rules behind breaking up with your ex, and being friends, it gets a little confusing. No, scratch that, it gets really confusing.
Truthfully, this isn’t a post with the answers. Rather, this is the post where I ask the questions: what are the rules when it comes to being friends with an ex? Is it even possible? That seems to be the question of the week, especially with how easily it seems like it could be. And then the confusion comes… and I have no idea. It’s like I’m living the lyrics of a Gwen Stefani song.